Moving can be hard on anybody, but it’s a particularly stressful time for kids. Find out how to make the transition of moving with kids easier with these tried-and-true methods.
Tip #1: Don’t make it a surprise
Some parents think their kids are better off not knowing they’ll be moving until moving day actually arrives. This couldn’t be further from the truth, unfortunately. Even if your kids are young, they’re sentient beings who relate to their environment. They deserve to know a transition is looming up ahead so they can make their peace with the idea.
Talk to your kids about your reason for moving and encourage them to ask questions. Listen to any concerns they have and encourage them to come to you if they want to talk about anything.
Tip #2: Share the details
Explain everything about the move to your kids, especially if they’re young or if they’ve never before been part of a move. They may be confused about what’s expected of them and might not know how to react.
Similarly, children don’t always understand what they can take with them and what must stay at your old house. Reassure them by pointing out all the things they will get to bring with them, including toys, games, clothes, and furniture.
Tell your kids about the process of packing everything up and then unpacking it once you all reach your new destination. Get them involved by asking them to pack up a box themselves, preferably with their own belongings (you can always return later to repack the box if needed!).
Tip #3: Give your kids a say in their new home
When possible, involve your kids in the home-purchase process. Take them with you when you’re out house hunting and ask for their opinions on different things in different houses. Let them know that the final decision will be up to you, but make it clear that you value their feedback.
If you’re not able to take your kids along for the new home hunt, bring them pictures of the houses you’re considering. Encourage involvement by asking them which room should go to whom and where you might position your furniture within the new house.
Tip #4: Make a point of saying goodbye
Don’t let your kids leave your old home and neighborhood without officially saying goodbye. When possible, throw a going-away party for your kids. Ask guests to bring pictures of themselves or to share tips for enjoying life at a new school. Help your kids get excited about the adventure they’re about to encounter.
Tip #5: Transition with glee
When you’re actually in the process of moving with your kids, spoil them a little. Take them out-to-eat on nights you’d normally eat at home. Choose hotels with indoor swimming pools or kid-friendly attractions. Take an afternoon to see a movie or go roller skating, just to give yourself a break from traveling or packing.
Tip #6: Carefully introduce new schools
School is going to be a big part of your child’s world, so take the time to bring him or her to the school before the big first day hits. Find out whether you can tour the school grounds or meet with your child’s teachers prior to enrolling. Get necessary school supplies ahead of time so your child will be well-prepared.
You might also take the time to meet with the school principal and guidance counselor. Introduce yourself and your child so you can both familiarize yourselves with friendly and helpful faces and get to know the neighborhood around the new school.
Tip #7: Reward your kids for being troopers
After you’ve completed your move, find a place to take your kids to celebrate. Look for outing options that are new or different from the options you had at your old house. Give your kids a day of celebration so they’ll know from the get-go that their new home will hold fun for them.
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